Conflict Resolution

A disagreement I constantly experience at work is between my co-teacher and myself. I tend to be a neat freak and she is the complete opposite of me. I like to have the classroom set up a certain way and throughout the day I organize and clean. I put the toys and books on the appropriate shelves. However, my coworker could care less about organization. She will just put toys anywhere and it really frustrates me. I have expressed my concerns to her and she always tells me that she will try, but she does not. One day we (all colleagues) were talking about organization and I called her messy and she got really offended, I right away but she was upset with me for awhile. Learning conflict resolution strategies now might have helped me resolve the conflict in a more practical way.

One strategy that I have learned is response which is from the 3R's. I could have discussed her messiness at another time and not at a team meeting. No one asked me about anyone's organization skills but I let my frustration get the best of me. I usually keep my responses to myself but I couldn't take it. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but I did.

Another strategy that I learned is cooperative strategy. Cooperative strategies would help us think of a solution that would benefit both us. Instead of calling her messy, I could have expressed my concerns about the classroom and sat down on how we can work on keeping the classroom neat and orderly.